Single mothers make some of the best lovers, but it can be hard to love a single mother when you know you are not the most important person in her life!
So how can you do it?
Be there, always, every day, forever. When it comes down to it, the reason that she is so focused on herself and her child is because she feels like she is alone. Before you, she was pretty much alone. The only way to get her to accept you as a part of her little family is to be there for her, every day, no matter what.
This is definitely going to be easier said than done! There are going to be many times when you will wish that it would just be the two of you, but nothing is going to change the fact that she has a +1 or +3. Be respectful of her time–especially the time she spends with her kids–but be available for her any time she needs help. That “help” is going to mean more to her than you know!
Listen to her. For as long as she has been alone, she has been dealing with her kids’ problems alone, and that’s on top of her own. She needs someone to listen to her more than she might care to admit! Taking time to listen–really, actively listen–will go a long way towards making her realize that you are the one for her.
Let her call the shots with the kids. You have no idea how many times she has been burned by men in the past, so the last thing you want to do is push her into something that she’s not totally comfortable with. The kids are a VERY sensitive territory, so let her set the pace on how fast or slow you become a part of their lives.
Check out Part 3 for more solid tips on how to love a single mother…
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